Gossip. It poisons your soul.
I’m not proud to admit that I’ve participated in the past.
I was reflecting on WHY recently. Why I gossiped, why others do too.
I came up with a few theories.
- People are miserable in their lives and it makes them feel better.
- It gives powerless people a feeling of power.
- MY reason, the unfortunate reason I have ever gossiped… to feel a sense of connection.
I’m a people person. A relationship builder. A connector. So in the past, I tried to morph into what I thought would make people happy. And I tried to connect. Unfortunately sometimes that connecting was around gossip.
Never was I malicious. I’m not a jealous or envious person, I sure don’t want to hurt anyone EVER.
So I’m VERY cognizant now when I’m around people. I will never say something about someone else that I wouldn’t tell them myself.
I’m also realizing that not everyone is going to connect with me. Not everyone will like me, my personality or what I believe in. That’s OK! But I’m not going to use gossip as a way to connect anymore.
I know better and I DO better.
Now? I’m surrounding myself with women who share hopes and dreams, visions and goals and life has never EVER been better!